It is with great sorrow we announce the loss of our precious son Kevin Philip Slocum, age 37.
Kevin is survived by his parents Terry and Arlene Slocum of Fairbanks, Alaska, brother Danny Slocum (wife Leigha) of Overland Park, Kansas, and sister Diane Slocum (husband Jerry Lyon) of Chapel Hill, North Carolina.
A Celebration of Life will be held at the Rumsey Yost funeral home in Lawrence Kansas on Saturday April 29, 2023 from 11:00am-12:30pm. Afterwards we will have a picnic lunch at a local park. Please come to share your memories of Kevin and join us for lunch.
Kevin had been missing since June 30, 2022. Kevin battled mental illness for much of his adult life. His condition worsened in the spring of 2022. His family and coworkers encouraged him to seek help and he did try, but he could not overcome the nightmare of paranoid schizophrenia.
He remained convinced that assassins were planning to kill him. In his last conversations he said he had to hide from them and could not tell us where in order to protect his family. In November 2022 the police found his remains in a remote area in Kansas. He had hung himself.
In his younger years Kevin excelled in sports, playing baseball, tennis, and basketball and running track. He graduated with many honors from Wentworth Military Academy in Missouri. While at Wentworth he was captain of the basketball team, a medalist in the 400 meter run at the state track competition, and inducted into the National Honor Society. He was quiet and polite and would hang out with friends, playing sports and video games. As an adult he developed social anxiety disorder, but through the JobLink program was able to find a good job delivering flowers for Englewood Florists. He was well liked at work and by the customers.
He is missed by them, and by the staff at First State Bank and at the funeral homes where he delivered flowers every day. As recently as 2019 Kevin was still a competitive runner. He joined his brother Danny at some Kansas City area races.
Kevin’s anxiety disorder made it awkward for him to relate to people in person. He spent a lot of time on line gaming and in chat rooms. During the pandemic he hosted a podcast on youtube. It was a forum for single guys to talk about relationships with women.
Like many in our country, Kevin believed conspiracy theories and refused medication because he thought it was a government plot. The seriousness of Kevin’s illness was not recognized by mental health professionals until it was too late. Privacy laws and HIPAA impeded us from learning about his treatment or trying to find him when he went missing.
We are sharing our son’s sad story because we know he was part of the larger issue of mental health treatment gripping our country. If you want to help, put down your phone and tell someone that you care about them. If you teach, let your students know how happy you are to see them. When you go out, thank the server or clerk and look at them when you say it. By connecting to someone in person each day, we make the world a better place.
If you want to make a donation in Kevin’s memory, we recommend the Lawrence Kansas Boys and Girls Club (he was a member) or Lawrence Humane Society, P.O. Box 1260 Lawrence, Kansas 66044.
Kevin, you are loved and missed every day. Love, Mom and Dad
Messages & Condolences
Thank you for sharing your sons story.
I too have known people in my life who were affected by this awful disease. Their stories also ended in tragedy. Please continue to share your beautiful sons story. Our country needs to do better in treating mental illness. May peace always be with Kevin’s family and those who knew and loved him. My heartfelt condolences. Linda B
I don’t know your family but I’m so sorry for our Family. I would like to see stories like your out in the in the Media for all to see. My Stepson has this illness, He is one of lucky ones He’s getting the help he needs!
The board learned from Liz Ross about your son’s passing and I just read your above honest account. Fairbanks is a challenging home and sometimes I forget how challenging life can be for anyone.
Together we make the world better.
You and your family are in our thoughts.
Dear Terry and Arlene,
Craig and I are both so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing his story and shining a light on mental health issues that affect so many of us.
Terry & Arlene, So grateful that you have the courage to write Kevin’s story. We lost a nephew, Marques, exactly the same way at Kansas State University about 4 years ago. Their lives sound very much alike. We are praying for your comfort. I don’t believe you ever get over such a tragedy. We are here in Alaska for you if you need anything. J
I was Kevin’s platoon leader at Wentworth. Not long ago I found myself wondering what had ever happened to Slocum. Yes, he was quiet. He was extremely intelligent. One of the few guys in my platoon who I could count on to deliver, no matter the task. I always figured as smart and hard working as he was, he would go far in life. I could tell the boy had demons, but hell we all did at military school.
I am so sorry to hear of his passing. Sincere condolences to his family and friends.
I live in Topeka. If I can get childcare lined up for that day, I’ll try to make the memorial.
Terry I am so sorry to hear of this. I know the pain must be terrible. My thoughts are with you and your wife. best wishes, Barney
I don’t know the family, but what a real life, honest obituary that may even help someone else. Thank you. RIP.
Thank you so much for sharing Kevin’s story. We live in difficult times. We all need to watch out for each other. I hope that his story encourages folks to reach out for help.
May Kevin rest in peace and his memory be a blessing.
Thank you for sharing his story- it will inspire me and others to connect with others.
Hopefully there will be reforms to a mental health system that only reacts to severe, accute crises and often hampers help from loved ones.
We are so saddened to learn of Kevin’s tragic passing. This is so disturbing. Your message to us is ever so important. We can all do so much better. Fran and Dan Breslauer
I am so very sorry for your unnecessary heartbreak.
Thank you for sharing your story . Just reading it I feel the love you have for Kevin. Bless you all!
Thank you so much for your brave message about mental health and the deep sorrow of being unable to care for your child because of his age or other circumstance. My parents faced the same heartbreak with me. Thank God I was able to recover to the point that I could safely live independently. Blessings to you!
I’m so sorry. I pray you can feel God wrapping you in his loving arms. Rest in peace Kevin!
I didn’t know Kevin but I want the Slocum family to know I am thinking about you and send my condolences.
Thank you for sharing this very personal story! My older brother took his life in 2009, leaving behind a wife & four sons, our dear Mother and many others. May you find comfort in the wonderful memories of Kevin. Peace be with you. Sincerely Margy Rose
As a mother I understand your pain. May his memory bring you joy and comfort every day.
Your story touched my own grief for our son. May you grieve this terrible loss well.
I have lost several loved ones due to mental illness, it is truly heartbreaking. Thank you for bringing light to a topic that is so misunderstood yet so prevalent. Prayers for you all during this difficult time.
Terry & Arlene, I’m so sorry for your loss of Kevin and applaud you for telling his story. Mental illness needs much more attention in this country than it gets. I will be following your suggestion to make more connections with people, and also making a donation to The Lawrence Humane Society in his name.
I had the privilege of working with Kevin at Englewood for 8 years. He was a genuine, caring & fun person to work with. He was quiet but so sincere, humble and hard working. The news of his passing is so sad and the loss of this sweet man is beyond words.
I didn’t know Kevin or the family. We lost our son to suicide in Dec. 2008. Our world was turned upside down. It is a parents worst nightmare. Please know all of you are in our thoughts and prayers as you try to create a “new normal.” ❤️🙏
I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss. The shop isn’t the same without Kevin. I miss him very much!