Memorial Services for Donna Ebeling will be held at 2pm, Monday, September 23rd at Rumsey-Yost Funeral Home of Lawrence.
Donna Jo “Jody” Ebeling (née Sparks), aged 89, of Lawrence, Kansas, passed away in her apartment at Arbor Court in Lawrence on September 9, 2024 in the presence of family. She had been well cared for in a brief illness by Arbor Court and Ascend Hospice services. Jody was born on March 17, 1935, in Shattuck, Oklahoma during the dustbowl and the great depression. Jody was a bit of a maverick and wasn’t interested in meeting the expectations of others and fiercely maintained her independence throughout her life. Jody’s grandparents had a significant role in raising her, they were a hugely stabilizing force in her life. She attended 18 schools in numerous states when living with her mother but May, Oklahoma and then Laverne, Oklahoma were always a grounding ‘homebase’.
Tornado Rider
She had the unique distinction of having lived through two devastating tornadoes, one in Woodward, Oklahoma in 1947 and later in Greensburg, Kansas in 2007.
Family
Jody married Donald Ebeling in January 1956. They had three sons and were later divorced. She never remarried. Jody was immensely proud of her sons and her 4 grandchildren. She enjoyed spending time with family as much as possible, which was difficult as family members ended up in far-flung places. She made the long trip to New Zealand 4 times to visit and support her family there.
She loved animals and often had several at a time, many of whom she rescued. She would often stretch the rules of her retirement community and feed stray cats and dogs, birds and squirrels. She reckoned she’d had 18 pets over her lifetime!
Jody is survived by her brother, J Ben Sparks, her sons, Terry (Kate Vercoe) Billy and Timmy Ebeling (Josanye Ebeling), 4 grandchildren, Cole, Landon, Cydney Ebeling and Cameron Vercoe Groenen, foster-son, John Lingenfelser, niece, Lindsay Gamboa; nephews, Kirk Sparks, Mike Sparks, Steve Sparks, and Scott Weeks. Jody was predeceased by her parents Oma (née Long ) Sparks and Gerald Sparks. As mentioned before, Jody lived in several different states as a child and attended many different primary schools. She graduated High School in Laverne, Oklahoma where she was Drum Major of the Marching Band. She attended the University of Oklahoma for one year, she didn’t find that a good fit, so trained as a hairdresser and then as a dance instructor at The Arthur Murray School of Dance where she met her husband, Don. They would move to Lawrence Kansas in 1963 and operated The Gaslight Tavern and Carriage Lamp Restaurant.
Aside from being a business owner, hairdresser and dance instructor, Jody would later work in Doctors’ offices as a bookkeeper and receptionist. She would later work for and eventually retire from ARCO pipeline gas company in Southwestern Kansas.
Jody was a devout member of Unity Spiritual Organization where she deepened her spirituality through affirmative prayer and education. She took her family on many summer retreats to Unity Village in Lee’s Summit, Missouri and was an occasional attendee at the Unity Church, both here in Lawrence and also at the main campus in Lee’s Summit.
Her diverse interests were reflected in her hobbies. Over her lifetime Jody pursued many different activities which included golf, bowling, trap shooting, painting, writing poetry, bridge, BINGO and singing. She made a recording “Never Too Late” in 2010 and had occasional live performances on stage with her 3 sons.
In lieu of flowers, contributions in Jody’s memory can be made to the Lawrence Humane Society, an organization that reflects her love for animals. Jody’s vibrant spirit and legacy of love, kindness and generosity will be dearly missed and forever remembered by all who knew her.
Online condolences may be sent at www.rumsey-yost.com.
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Carol and I send our condolences and love to your family.
I’m so sorry Billy. Losing mom is a really hard one. I’ll pray for your comfort as you grieve. I loved be you Billy. May the Lord God hold you and keep you and your family.
Letti and Don
Billy,
I’m sorry to hear of the passing of your Mom. May GOD bless Mom, you and your family during this time of great sorrow. My thoughts and prayers for you and your family.
I am so sad to know that Jody, my neighbor and friend has passed away. Jody was a very unique woman, I loved to listen to her tell about her life and her poems she wrote and would share with me. She was no longer my neighbor about a year or so ago. I’ve missed seeing her sitting on her patio and stopping to visit.
I give her family my condolences in this time of grief.
Love to your family
She sounds like a lovely lady
Kia ora Terry and whanau. Sending great love to you all in these difficult days. Will be with you in spirit on the 23rd. Brenda, Port Chalmers
I’ve only met Ms. Ebeling as reflected in her sons. Clearly, she is a beautiful soul and I’m sorry she’s gone from us for now. Much love to Terry, Billy, Timmy, and all she loved.
Sorry for your loss Billy
Terry, Kate, Cam, and whānau. Sending much love and kindness at this time. Take care. xxoo
Hi Terry…..to you and Kate and your brothers, my condolences again. What lovely words about Jody and her life….I’ll be thinking of you all on the 23rd……and may it be a celebration of her life, in a bubble of love that descends on such occasions….Tony
Dear Terry,
What an incredibly amazing mother she was who had some awesome adventures. I know you will miss her dearly. Peace to all of your family.
Cindy Blair Gentry
Friend and fellow Classmate
Sorry for your loss Ebeling Bros.
My heartfelt thoughts go out to you Timmy, Billy and Terry
The Ebelings have been part of my Family as long as I can remember. Know that the Rows send love and will hold you each in our hearts. Sending hugs.
So sorry for your loss, prayers for the family
Very Sorry for yours Loss
Terry, Billy, and Tim,
We’ll be holding you in our hearts as you grieve for your Mom. Hope you come to be filled with joy as you share your memories of many years of love.
Very sorry to hear of your loss. Condolences from the Mullenix family to yours.
Hey Billy, i’m very sorry to hear that your mama has passed away. My heart goes out to you and your family. It sounds like she was a force of nature, and perhaps a lot of that has rubbed off on you all in the best of ways. My thoughts are with you.
Hey Terry
Your Mum sounds like an amazing woman. It sounds like she has had an interesting and rich life!
I am thinking about you mate and your brothers too.
Lots of love.
Erin Morton. (Dunedin New Zealand).
My sympathy Billy to you and your family. Your mom led a funfilled life and sounds line she enjoyed each of her careers. Rest in Peace.
Sending love to your family.
Rest in Peace Mrs Enrling I was lucky enough to meet you on one of your trips to New Zealand. Your kindness shone through. My condolences to your family